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It looks like MCA has stirred up another of cauldron of fire and hypocrisy that critics say can only burn up the last shreds of whatever credibility the party has left.

Even as Wee Ka Siong, the MCA Youth chief, rushed to grab a slice of public sympathy for himself over the Beliawanis or MCA women’s youth wing) issue, news has already erupted all over town that indeed, at least 4 of a group of stunning looking young girls who ‘graced’ the party’s Youth annual assembly recently were hired models.

But Ka Siong refused to acknowledge the latest development, choosing to focus on blaming PKR Youth leaders who had first questioned if the girls were indeed ‘real’ MCA members.

“Logically, one can make the connection following comments from several PKR Youth leaders who criticised MCA,” the Star quoted Wee as saying. He even threatened to take legal action.

Wee was immediately shot down by PKR vice president Chua Jui Meng, who ticked him for accusing without basis or proper evidence.

“Only a fool would be so rash as to make such accusations, especially when there are already grounds to suggest that Khai Loon and Pei Nei were right in their assessment. We have every confidence that PKR members would not resort to gutter politicking and we would like to invite MCA president Chua Soi Lek himself to explain the latest news reports about the girls being hired models,” Jui Meng told Malaysia Chronicle.

“Also, Soi Lek owes the public an explanation as to why did Ka Siong and the Youth wing try to give the impression these girls were part and parcel of the MCA. As they say, those who eat chilli feel the heat. Maybe, this is why Ka Siong and Beliawanis are making so much noise without offering an iota of proof.”

The sudden U-turn into hypocrisy

News portal Malaysiakini had a day ago reported that four of the 10 girls were professional models, not MCA members, citing a forum user who goes by the handle ‘hdcyng’ on the cari.com.my website.

Beliawanis MCA chief Tee Hooi Ling and her deputy Nicole Wong, who have led the attacks against PKR Youth leader Lee Khai Loon and Rawang assemblywoman Gan Pei Nei, were strangely quiet when approached for confirmation.

In the past week, Beliawanis often slammed Pei Nei for disrespecting her own female gender. Yet, Tee directed Malaysiakini to Selangor MCA Youth chief Kow Cheong Wei, saying she was overseas when asked about the girls not being MCA members. Kow also refused to confirm, saying that the media should not focus on only a certain segment of AGM participants.

Tee and MCA’s sudden reticence is starkly against the harsh and even smug tone they adopted on October 5.

“That is not true, they are all members, I think some of them were from the Subang division. I don’t know how people can come up with such allegations,” Malaysiakini had reported Tee as saying then.

To compound Tee’s hypocrisy, she even added it was “very disgusting” of netizens to question the women’s membership just because they thought the women were pretty.

Pundits said when the truth is finally unveiled, it would interesting to see who were really abusing women and using them as sex objects, and all for the sake of gaining political favour.

“Let the truth surface naturally. There is no point to cover up or try to hide because the Beliawanis also initially attacked PKR for suggesting pretty women could niot be in politics. Now they dare not answer if Wee or MCA had hired the four to be models for, of all functions, the male MCA Youth AGM. So macho, is that what Wee was trying to insinuate? Join MCA Youth and get to mingle with luscious babes? What type of a recruitment campaign can that be,” PKR veteran Eddie Wong told Malaysia Chronicle.

Mirror websites and fooling the ignorant

Wee, who is also the deputy Education minister had blamed the opposition leaders for a website that carried the domain name Suara Keadilan Malaysia but is not connected to PKR or its magazine Suara Keadilan in any way.The PKR news website is under the domain namehttp://www.keadilandaily.com/.

In fact, the website is frequently used by pro-Umno bloggers to unleash their anti-opposition propaganda. The website had shown photos of the faces of several ‘Beliawanis members’ superimposed on figures in pornographic poses.

“Mirror websites are so common. One of the most famous is freemalaysiakini. Then in Selangor, Umno Selangor openly prints their version of Selangorkini to out-shout Pakatan Rakyat. To pretend he doesn’t know such things exist shows Wee is either not up-to-date in his knowledge or he is pretending not to know. But it is no excuse. As deputy Education minister, he must not try to deceive the ignorant, he should raise their knowledge, not try and bluff those who don’t know,” said Eddie.

“I felt sick and angry as the website tarnished my reputation, image and insulted me,” she reporters on Thursday.

‘Luscious babes’

Apart from pin-pointing her, the website also posted pictures of a group of women youth members or ‘Beliawanis’, superimposing their faces on figures in pornographic poses.

“The website has also insulted the young and pretty Beliawanis MCA women. Their image too has been ruined by the website, which labelled them as prostitutes for Umno,” said Tan.

She appeared oblivious to a denial by PKR that the website belonged to them.

MCA is hoping to ride on the issue to gain public sympathy from the Chinese community. However, the issue looks like boomeranging with netizens quick to expose that four of the 10 stunningly pretty girls whom MCA claimed were Beliawanis members were actually professional models.

The netizens also alleged the four were not MCA members at all.

Who is using women as decoration

This has sparked anger at MCA since it had accused PKR assemblywoman for Rawang Gan Pei Nei of not standing up for women’s rights.

“If it is true, they are not MCA members, it is MCA who is using the girls as decoration. This would be outrageous then,” PKR vice president Chua Jui Meng told Malaysia Chronicle.

Nonetheless in her report, Tan told the police to “please defend our truth and justice. This has damaged their reputation and image, resulted in them being emotional, while causing them heartaches and tears.”

Tan was the last in the news over a verbal fight with the DAP, accusing Chief Minister Lim Guan Eng of double standards over state contracts to Class F contractors. She accused him of not conducting open tenders.

On Wednesday, MCA Youth Chief Wee Ka Siong had also threatened to lodge a police report against PKR, although he did not have concrete proof. PKR Youth leaders responded with a demand for an apology and so far, there has been no further follow-up from Ka Siong

The netizens also alleged the four were not MCA members at all.

Who is using women as decoration

Some amount of intuitive choice of the right mate is ingrained in us, but the selection of a life partner requires far more strategising than most are willing to invest

Most of us invest far more energy and strategy in choosing things such as a car, a house, or a holiday package than we do in selecting a life partner. Though it is de rigeur to be extra careful about your choice of vegetable, meal, restaurant, shoe or outfit, it is considered indecorous to strategise for the selection of the right spouse! Such a critical decision of life is left to Destiny, or at best, the vagaries of the heart!

Charles Darwin proved more than 150 years ago that animals’ choice of mating partner isn’t random, but a deliberate, well-worked out process that ensures and influences evolutionary patterns. The female of any animal species will not submit to just any male, but will be very selective and attentive to her choice. It is not by chance that even amongst animals, it is the best looking and strongest of the males that get their choice of females. A female looks out for the strongest of the contenders and a male looks for healthy females in order to pass on genes to the next generation.

The process is no different in humans, whatever we may imagine. Women are naturally attracted to healthy, strong men who can be good providers. A successful man, or one who is dynamic and ambitious, and so poised for success, attracts a woman. Men are attracted to women with a waist-hip ratio of about 70 per cent – actually an indicator of high fertility in a woman. All men love breasts and cleavage, and find a rounded, protruding behind attractive – a symbol of fertility since time immemorial. So, a man is naturally attracted to a woman who can bear him children and will in all likelihood, be a good mother.So, even without our realizing it, there is some sort of sexual strategy naturally ingrained in our DNA! The heart may know no reason, but our instinct certainly does! It is another matter, however, that sometimes we close our mind and heart to the signals that instinct may hand out and make the mistake of imagining things will work out once we start living together.

What to look for!

In order to identify the perfect mate for you, it is important to understand yourself. Before embarking on this critical quest, you need to have a clear idea of the kind of life you wish to lead. Are you looking for someone who can be a counterfoil for your dynamic energy and restlessness, someone who can keep you grounded and build a steady home for you? Are you looking for someone who can give you the required impetus, some encouragement and that one push to help you on in life? Are you looking at bettering your material circumstances or shoring up your emotional fronts? Are you attracted by a life that takes you round the globe or would you rather strike root in one place? Once you understand what your triggers are, it is easier to identify people who would make good potential partners for you. How frustrating it would be if you are forced to kill your dreams or are stifled in a relationship that requires you to take paths contrary to your urges!

Communication is essential. Common areas of differences and clashes should be discussed with a potential partner and understood before launching onto a life together. Areas such as religion, finances, children, career, living within a joint family or independently are key issues that may lead to clashes. Do not turn a deaf ear to anything negative you may hear about your potential partner at this stage, nor turn a blind eye to any flaw you can see clearly.

Sometimes a process of elimination is a great way of working backwards towards a choice. The logic you employ for elimination reveals a lot about you and helps arrive at great conclusions about what you really want! Identify values and characteristics that hold the utmost importance for you. Can you live with a partner who is dishonest or has no sense of integrity? Can you tolerate living with someone who has no sense of humour? Someone to whom a job is just a way of earning a living? Someone changeable? Someone who is cruel or uncharitable? Someone who may be honest but will not stand up for another? Cold and calculating?

Do not be rushed into a choice. This is probably the most critical decision you are likely to make in your life and you cannot be pushed to decide either way. It takes a long time to understand another human being, particularly because during the initial phases of a relationship, one is on one’s best behavior. For your part, be as open and honest as you can from the beginning. Do not play down your own needs and requirements, and be clear about where you draw the lines.

Neither men nor women wish to deviate from their original roles vis-a-vis each other — he, the protector;she, the nurturer. What then is all the fuss about?

When a man declares he is confused about how to deal with the new independent, self-sufficient woman, he obviously hasn’t bothered to find out what makes her tick. More often than not, scratch the surface and beneath the hard exterior, he will find the same vulnerability and need for companionship that -she has always had.

When a woman says she can look after herself and doesn’t need a man for protection, she is only uttering a half-truth. She may not need a man to feed her anymore, but she still needs him as a companion, to love and be loved in return. And though she may not NEED him as a provider and protector, who says she wouldn’t WANT him to still play these roles for her?

Basic instinct acquires a whole new meaning. It isn’t easy to do away with the instincts of centuries, when a woman needed a man who could protect her and her children from the big, bad world. Instinctively she would look out for the most macho, the strongest and the most aggressive male rather than a romantic softie! Look at a woman today – she still hasn’t forgotten her instinctive attraction to the aggressive bad guy, has she?

There are certain basic equations in the man-woman formulation that will never change. Biologically, she will always be the one with the maternal instinct, the nourisher and the nurturer. Physically, he is the stronger of the sexes and so will automatically fall into the role of the protector and provider.

What then has changed, if not the basic roles the sexes play out? Perhaps a woman’s awakening to and an understanding of her own identity and individuality is the biggest change that has played out between the sexes. Threatened by women entering what was their exclusive terrain, on an equal footing, men suddenly didn’t know how to react to the “new woman”. It was easier to convince themselves that women had changed irrevocably and so men needed to change as well.

Men have always had this need to feel essential to the system and to women; the problem is that they have overrated their role as protector and provider, while sadly underrating their role as companion and support. No longer seeing themselves as essential components of women’s need for food or protection, they have almost written themselves off, not understanding that women need them just as much for love and companionship and for procreation!

Perhaps what does need to change is attitudes. Both sexes need to understand that a woman’s independence is a natural evolution and not a direct threat or challenge to men’s traditional role. The role of protector that falls to men is more about responsibility and liability, rather than about authority. His role complements and balances the role Nature has decreed for her. So how can it be something she doesn’t want from him anymore?

A woman still needs a man to make her feel like a princess, just as he needs her to make him feel like a million dollars. She basks in his compliments, indulgencies and courtesies as much as he revels in her attention, dependence and warm care. Most men wonder if they are still expected to hold open a car door for a woman, allow her to precede them into a room or stand up when she walks in. I cannot answer for diehard feminists, but YES, say most of the women I know. We certainly expect a guy to maintain basic courtesies.

A woman, however independent and free-spirited, loves it when a man makes her feel ultra-feminine just as much as a man loves to be made to feel all macho and strong by a woman. She would still like to be picked up and dropped back by her guy and to be protected by him, just as he would love her to provide him with a good meal and look after his children. If these basic needs are met, there are a lot of adjustments that can be made in other spheres.

So, neither men nor women want each other to change or deviate from their original, basic roles. However they do need to change their attitudes to make space for the new woman to spread her wings within the relationship; she is now truly an equal who demands respect and attention. The way the sexes interacted with each other has to change, as do expectations.

Says a friend, a woman-of-the-world, “If you ask me about the kind of husband I would like, I would say he should be very rich and generous, funny, understanding and liberal; have a hearty laugh and give me good times. If he is all this, in return I will turn a blind eye to whatever else he does away from me, so long as the good times last! We cannot expect to have our cake and eat it too, can we?” she adds with a wink.

Interesting! I turned my attention to a young man-of-the-world and asked him the same question. His considered reply, “I would want a girl who is reasonably pretty, particular with her grooming, intelligent and understanding, a good cook and a great mother!” How would he react to her working late hours and travelling alone on work? “Oh, that would be cool,” he says, so long as she fulfills the other criteria…”